How To Create Attraction In A Woman

The 4 Conversation Tools You Need To Spark Attraction With Women.

What do I say?

How do I keep the conversation going?

What if I run out of things to say?

I'm sure all of those questions have gone through your head before approaching women you find attractive because they use to go through mine. It took me YEARS of failure to figure out what truly works. Once I figured what to say but how to keep the conversation going and make it interesting my results with women improved 10 fold.

Before mastering con v ersation with women my results were hit and miss. In order to keep a woman engaged you must be able to occupy her mind and spike her emotions which great conversation does. In the dating community it is called having the "Million Dollar Mouthpiece."

Once I started to get the million dollar mouthpiece women were more attracted, flaked less and I got laid more. There is a saying that goes, "Men fall in love through their eyes, and women fall in love through their ears."

From my 10 years of experience of cold approaching women I have found that to be very true. The reason being is that women are emotional BEINGS thus if you make them FEEL a certain way you can get a lot of women. That is why looks don't matter because if you can make a women feel good emotions she can't help but be attracted to you.

I'm going to give you conversation tools you can go out and use tonight or tomorrow when you are on your lunch break and you see a girl you want to talk to.

Top 4 Attraction Bits

You need to be able to spark attraction with women before they will comply with any of your request, i.e. give you her number, go on a date, have sex with you, etc.

Attraction is the fundamentals of the game and if you don't know how to spark it your efforts will all be in vein when it comes to approaching women. You can't skip the attraction phase if you want to get and keep women in your life.

Attraction is something that is ongoing and not a one-time phase that once you know you have attraction you stop displaying an attractive personality.

A lot of guys make the mistake of generating attraction and then going back to their needy and clingy behavior a few minutes after sparking attraction. That will lead to flakey numbers and repelling every woman who initially was interested in you.

There are more than 4 attraction bits but I'm going to give you the top 4 so that you can put them into practice immediately. Ok now let's get into the 4 attraction bits.

Attraction Bit #1- Observations

Observations are great way to generate attraction for two reasons. The first reason is that they are all about her. The second reason is that it shows that you pay attention to detail and that is attractive to women because most men don't pay attention to detail when it comes to women.

Men pay attention to superficial details like a woman's ass and tits but those aren't the type of details that are going to spark attraction in a woman when you initially meet her. Those type of details work during foreplay and sex but not when you approach a woman that you don't know on the street.

The type of details that I'm referring to are things like her hairstyle, purse, dress, shoes, nail and toe color, her walk, etc. Those are the type of observations that are social connectors and will come off as genuine when you approach a woman on the street.

There are 5 different types of observations. Here they are.

1. Her Hairstyle. "You have such a cool hairstyle it reminds me of Halley Berry's look."

2. Her Style. "You style is very unique, it's very 80s retro."

3. Her Walk. "You have such a determined walk; it reminds me of the way models walk down the runway."

4. Unique Items. "Those are some bad ass shoes, the spikes and the black strap make you look like you are in a rock and roll band."

5. Matching Items. "I just noticed how your hair matches you're the color of your glasses and your dress and your shoes, I can tell you are a color coordination freak."

You are going to say your observations after you do your opener. Just as a side note about observations, you can combine them. Let's say you observed a woman's style you can then go and observe the unique items.

That is what is known as observation stacking which you can do however be sure to let the woman respond when you are doing your observations; you don't want to be the observation dancing monkey.

Now you may look at those observations and think that there is no way that saying that will generate attraction inside of woman but it will. I have been using observations for years and they are very effective.

Think about it, have you ever been out in public and a stranger men or woman observes something about you that you took pride in? How did that make you feel? If it was an accurate observation I'm sure it made you feel good, special or made you laugh.

For example, let's say you are in shape and you go to the gym 3 or 4 times a week. Now let's say a stranger comes up to you and says, "Man you are in great shape, you must live in the gym with a physique like that." That observation is either going to make you feel good, special or make you laugh.

There are no bad emotions associated with that type of observation. The same thing goes for when you observe something about a woman that you just approached. Even if she isn't interested most women will appreciate that you noticed the little things about her.

Some women won't appreciate it and that is fine also not every women is going to like the fact that you want to seduce them. So what, next!

O.C.A.T.
This is an exercise that will help you sharpen your observation skills with women dramatically. It will also help you sharpen your assumptions skills with women, which is the next attraction bit I'm going to cover.

The O stands for Observation, the C stands for Comment, the A stands for Assumption and the T stands for Topics(Related topic of the assumption you made).

Let me give you an example of how O.C.A.T. works;

"You have such a cool hairstyle it reminds me of Halley Barry's look (observation).

I bet you took a photo of her with that hairstyle when you went to the salon (comment).

You seem like the type of girl who likes to keep up with the latest hairstyles (assumption).

It's interesting that people never want to feel left out so that they don't miss out on something great (topic)."

Exercise
Use Google images to do O.C.A.T. Go to Google images and type in, "Street Fashion 2018". Have a notebook just for this and every day for 30 days use the O.C.A.T. formula on the women that come on.

All you need to do is 1 woman a day and in 30 days you will notice your ability to do O.C.A.T. on women you speak to will dramatically increase.

Attraction Bit #2 — Assumptions

When it comes to assumptions, there are only 3 types that you can make. Here they are.

1. Where she is from. "You seem like you are from the Midwest." Or "You don't seem like you are from LA."

2. What she does for a living. "You seem like you do something creative." Or "You seem like you do something business related."

3. What type of person she is. "You seem like you are a very laid-back, chill person." Or "You seem like you're a very outgoing, life-of-the-party type of person."

Assumptions are great because they do a couple of things for your conversations with women. They make you interesting because you are talking about HER.

Also, when you do assumptions, women say things in response to your assumptions that will be more conversation material, thus making it nearly impossible to run out of things to say.

For example, let's say you said to a woman, "You seem like you are a very laid-back, chill person." In response, she says, "Yeah, I am. Ever since I was a kid, I always liked to just go with the flow."

What she just said is conversation material to improvise off of.

So in response to that, you can say, "So you are more of the in-the-moment type of person. You like to focus on the now and not worry too much about the past or future."

Now you have a whole other type of direction you can take your conversation. When you make assumptions, you will come across these type of situations all of the time.

Exercise
I want you to come up with 3 assumptions that you could potentially use when you are out approaching women.

Attraction Bit #3 — Teasing

Teasing is a very powerful attraction bit because it takes women off of their pedestal and it shows that you aren't intimidated by them. Attractive women never or rarely get teased by guys because most guys kiss their ass.

When you tease a woman it shouldn't come from a place of animosity or seeking her approval, it should come from a place of messing with her for your own entertainment.

Also if you tease her too much and you never show her the real you then you come off as the dancing monkey and dancing monkey's make women laugh but they don't get laid.

When it comes to teasing you always want to be playful and never mean, here is an example of one way to tease a woman.

1. Push/Pull aka Takeaways.

The purpose of push/ pull teasing is to keep the woman that you are interested in guessing whether you like her or not. This is a very powerful form of teasing because it keeps the attraction going.

From my experience when you first met a woman if she knows that you like her 100% I have found that it kills that attraction and she loses interest rather quickly.

However with push/pull your showing your interest put you aren't putting all your cards on the table. That keeps a woman you just met interested in you enough to want to continue to hand around you until you have sex or set up another time to meet her. Here are a few examples of push/pull teasing.

Just when I thought you were cool, I find out you can't cook….nice meeting you (back turn).

You won me over until you said that (look away).

I thought we would get along now I know we would fight like cats and dogs. This isn't going to work for me.

Attraction Bit #4 — Physical Escalation

Touch also known as kinesthetics which is also known as physical escalation. Physical escalation is used to do three things.

1. Create attraction. Once you verbally spike a woman's attraction for you touching her will amplify her attraction for you. Ideally you want to verbally spike her attraction for you and touch her at the same time. You can't always do that as a lot of women won't be comfortable with you touching them until you spike their attraction verbally.

2. Screen out the women who aren't sexually available. Once you have spiked a woman's attraction verbally physically escalating on her will tell you if is she is available and how attracted she is to you. A lot of women have the tendency to talk a big game. They may say they like you are and are attracted to you but once you touch them that will tell you everything.

It will let you know if she is single or if she is taken and she lets you physically escalate on her that mean she is willing to cheat on her boyfriend. I remember one time I was at this bar that I go to frequently and I approached this chick. I was spiking her attraction verbally and then I went to touch her and she freaked out a little bit.

The reason being, her brother's boyfriend was standing a couple of feet away from us and she didn't want him to tell her boyfriend about letting another guy touch her. Touch doesn't lie! It will save you a lot of time with girls who aren't available.

3. Get women use to your touch. Once you have screened the woman you are interested in and you know she is sexually available via touch you want to continue to touch her in order for her to get use to it. You want to physically escalate in a way that is calibrated and not the creepy guy who hasn't touched a woman in years even if that isn't the case. You must keep your cool.

The reason why you want to get her use to your touch so that when you go for sex touching her isn't a big to her because you have been doing it all night. I'm going to share with you the 10 types of physical escalation.

8 Types Of Physical Escalation

1. Handshake. This is most common form of touch and you should use it. Now I want to utilize the handshake is that once a woman shakes your hand hold it for an extra 30 seconds longer than normal. As you become more advanced you will be able to hold woman's hand for much longer. Always do this in a calibrated manner.

When you are holding a woman's hand and she pulls away from looks at you holding her hand for too long say, "I'm sorry I'm the
romantic type." You will have some women who will say, "I don't shake hands or I have a thing about germs."

All that means is that they aren't attracted you. Some of these women you can win over by spiking attraction and going for the handshake at a later point. If you try to spike attraction and she still won't shake your hand or let you touch her in any other way just move on as that woman isn't interested.

2. High Five. Giving a woman a high five is like a handshake but it has more energy behind it and is more engaging. When you are talking to a woman you want to give her a high five for a reason. So let's say she says, "I love pizza." You can say, "I love pizza too, high five." Just like the handshake you can hold her hand while giving the high five and bringing it down to both you guy's side.

3. Hug. A hug is a little more intimate then a handshake and a high five and gives you numerous opportunities to escalate. You can give the woman you're attracted to a hug for any reason. If she says, "I love blue" you can say, "Come here that deserves a hug." Once she gives you a hug you can escalate in many ways which I'm going to touch on next.

4. Whispering in her ear. Once you are hugging her you can start to whisper in her ear. Whispering in a woman's ear is very seductive. It's something that lovers do and it will turn her on.

While whispering in her ear you can say, "You smell so good, you are sosexy, and you have sexy lips." Always say something that you like about her in a sexual way while whispering in a woman's ear.

5. Hand holding. Handing holding is great because it is what lovers and it allows you to screen a woman as far as her sexual availability. A great way to hold a woman's hand is to hold onto it after you gave her a handshake, high five or just simply ask to see her hand.

6. Arm around waist. You can put your arm around a woman's waist after you have given her a hug; it's a good way to transition from one to the other. You can also just put your arm around her waist after you have built enough attraction. Again this is something that boyfriend and girlfriend do and almost automatically puts her in the romantic mindset.

7. Arm around shoulder. You can transition from a hug to arm around the shoulder also. This again is something that boyfriend and girlfriend do and will put her in the romantic mindset also.

8. Light hair pulling. This is very sexual and can be done as you are hugging a woman or whispering in her ear. If done correctly this will turn a woman on. Remember you want to pull her hair lightly because if you do it too hard it will hurt and make her angry or freak her out. Light hair pulling is about seduction not pulling her hair out LOL.

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Wishing you much success with women and dating.

Sincerely Your Dating Coach,

Jacob Palmer.